This also allows you to be the heavy when she wants to say “no” but is struggling to do so. I wrote how I did this for my first interview with my eldest daughter’s date in my original blog on interviewing your daughter’s date. Ask about his family, his work and studies, his life plans, what he enjoys doing, and even his driving record…the kinds of things that will give you clues about his values and character.
Don’t be shy…even if it seems a bit uncomfortable for him and for you.
It’s especially frustrating because she first asked about it only a month after Mom died while we were at a wedding reception, and it wound up making me cry, but she still keeps asking.
Plus, she’s my mom’s sister, not dad’s, so it feels strange that she’s so eager to move on. A: I’m trying to be as generous as possible toward your aunt, but even so I can’t come up with a reasonable justification for why she should repeatedly ask you, starting merely a month after your mother’s funeral, whether or not your father is dating again.
This helps her know that you are expecting to be her first line of defense and gives her guidance on how to respond to a guy’s invitation. So you might invite the young man, and even his dad, to your home.My issue now is that one aunt keeps asking nosy questions about whether Dad is dating again, and keeps bringing it up whenever I see her.I know widowers supposedly move on quickly, but Dad doesn’t seem interested.At that point, you can give him permission to take out your daughter.Or you might even buy yourself some time by saying you’ll think the conversation over and get back to him with an answer especially if you have issues that you feel need to be addressed with your wife and daughter.Mallory Ortberg, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up below to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. Aunt wants dad to date again after mom’s death: My mother died two years ago after a long, painful battle with cancer.Dad was a perfect caretaker during her final months and was with her in the hospital every day of her illness.While films like My Thai Bride have explored such controversial relationships, the filmmakers were determined to create a more raw and intimate portrait, capitalizing on the access the duo had staying in their subjects’ home in the Philippines. “Everyone puts out their perfect little lives on Facebook, all bright and shiny, but when you get to the nitty-gritty, everyone has some kind of sh-- we’re covering up,” she said.“It’s weird to examine a relationship this way,” admits Butler, who at times wondered if she was being played. “If we were more open it’d be easier to be more supportive.” Butler has become estranged from her father since their last exchange, but she says it’s liberating.My friend, Dennis Rainey, has written a good book, Interviewing Your Daughter’s Date, which covers this topic in depth.But to give you some quick insights, let me share with you a few key steps from my experience.