There were also emails from men who were utterly confused, who wrote things like, “Why?
I didn’t want to be the sort of woman who spends her entire life talking about boys.
I've absolutely been messaging with people and it was going well for one or two emails and then I was getting really bored or they weren't giving me much to work with or I realized that this person was like talking to literally anyone. I'm giving you the advice it took me years to learn.
They weren't a jerk but they also weren't someone I absolutely Had to Meet either. I know I sound like a guidance counselor but seriously, I've had people I've never met before ask me to just come to their place for the first time we met and maybe it would've been fine, but also it's legit scary to be a woman, and if they're worth my time, they'll understand why I don't wanna go to a stranger's house when they might be that murderer from 1–10000. It may seem obvious but I spent sooooo many dates just being bored out of my mind or sometimes even just hating this person, but trying to make the most of it.
Plus, it's really great to know you already have a lot to talk about on your first date because you love stuff together. That way, if one doesn't work out, it won't seem like the end of the world because you have other dates soon! Sometimes it's just too much to deal with and you get all those weird messages, but you don't wanna give up on finding someone awesome.
And one looks like Channing Tatum (That's someone people like, right? You don't have to keep talking to someone if it's not fun anymore. Some examples: "I'd love to stay and chat but I have to be up super early tomorrow so maybe another time!