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How do you know that person you have a crush on in your Astronomy class isn’t non-binary? If you’re only attracted to transgender people until you learn what we were arbitrarily assigned at birth, you’re still attracted to us, it just means your attraction is overridden by your repulsion against trans people. Non-binary people are whole and valid identities outside of our western colonialist sex and gender binary. However, if you hold these transphobic attitudes, I invite you to examine in yourself why those beliefs are there and what you are really afraid of when you say you “won’t date trans people.”Are you afraid of genitals you’re not familiar with? How is my permanently attached strapon functionally any different than a cis woman’s detachable strapon?

To act like you can be the arbiter of what feelings are true feelings and what are “fake” feelings created by someone you see as lying to you just for being authentic is a truly sad dismissal of all the beauty and joy contained in trans communities. Are you afraid of being seen in public with a trans person?

This group can also potentially include cisgender people who are insecure about being attracted to something they say they aren’t attracted to, in this case a woman, who they see as a man, because they assume she has a penis (even though many trans women haven’t had a penis for years).

Other trans women (or sometimes even the same trans women who “pass” on one day and not on another), are also told that if they have facial hair, a visible Adam’s apple, a deep voice, a small chest, or other visible markers of being assigned male at birth, then they are “not trying hard enough” to present as feminine, and therefore must be lazy, mentally ill (which is ableist), or predators tricking people into believing that they are a woman in order to “access women’s spaces” or otherwise infiltrate and harass otherwise designated safe spaces where men aren’t allowed.

The so-called “trans panic” defense is still widely used to reduce sentencing and plea for lesser charges in cases of violence against transgender people.

It’s pretty terrifying to navigate a dating pool where you’re both disqualified from people’s dating preferences when you disclose your trans status up front, but then also threatened with violence when you choose not to share the details of your genitals before the other person can “accidentally” fall in love with you.

Before we talk about how that sentiment alone is transphobic, I want to be direct about the fear that trans people, especially trans women, face in the world of dating cisgender people.It is, however, deeply transphobic to decide that you never want to date any transgender person ever, and the choice to draw such a line is rooted in ignorance, fear, and disgust of trans people.The transgender community is a massively diverse group with all kinds of body types, genital configurations, personalities, hobbies, and relationship styles.To categorically exclude all people from that group, who would otherwise align with your sexuality (trans men for a straight woman, trans women for a lesbian woman, etc.) is not only missing out on many potential connections you could have with people who you would otherwise have a wonderful time dating, but also reinforces the oppressive social system that says transgender women aren’t “really” women because they were assigned male at birth, and vice versa for trans men.When you’re on the dance floor, or on Tinder, or flirting with someone at a work function, you can’t truly “tell” if someone is trans just by looking at them, no matter how much you think you can.This happens because we, as a culture, seem to want trans people to both be cis-appearing enough to be invisible, but also we expect trans people to out themselves at every possible moment, just to make them even easier to avoid.When I came out as a trans woman, the first concern I heard from many close friends and family members were two things: “How will you ever get a good job? ” These fears are very real things that many trans people struggle to find in their lives.Some of these things can be dismissed as annoyances or just well-intentioned people being ignorant, however, such a sliding scale of transphobia can sometimes slide all the way down to justifying the murder of trans women with comments like the ones made by comedian Lil Duval recently on New York’s Power 105.1 FM radio show This is also an important time to remind you that in 48 states, it is an admissible, legal defense in a courtroom to say you were driven temporarily insane by the revelation that a trans person is a trans person.You can even use this defense to avoid charges for the violence you’ve caused to a trans person in such a state of “insanity”.How do you know the cute girl you were flirting with at the bar last night isn’t a trans woman?How do you know that cute boy you’ve been flirting with on Grindr isn’t a trans man? I know attraction is complicated, and again, no one is saying you should be forced to date someone you’re not into. You can’t assume someone’s genitals based on their identity, and more so, you might be missing out on sex that’s fun and pleasurable just because you’re unable to see a penis as feminine or a vulva as masculine.

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  1. Aug 23, 2017. The first time I ever felt butterflies in my stomach was when I was 14 years old. My family had rented a house down on the Jersey Shore, and I'd become smitten with one of the lifeguards there. One night, when my friends and I were wandering around the neighborhood where we were staying, lifeguard and.

  2. Jul 20, 2008. 1 Black women at Columbia are really open to dating black men. Take a look at the sex ratios there. 2 Asian dudes are really screwed. Not only are non-Asian women not impressed, but Asian women aren't reciprocally racially discriminatory to level the playing field. 3 Women care a lot more about race.

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