Because of this a lot of the time we cling to hope and live in the future of “when” rather than addressing the reality of “it is”.
From a young age she started leading and counselling women and was often called on by strangers and friends for relationship advice.
The best thing to do is to set boundaries, emotionally as well as physically, that way you can have time to gather your thoughts, emotions and energy and focus on loving yourself as well. Sometimes men need us to be the hero, which is great up until the point where we think we can heal or fix them ourselves!
Yes we can definitely aid them in making progress and we can love them unconditionally at the stages they are at, but there has to be a point where you realise that you can only help someone so much before they need to learn to help themselves.
This usually happens by default because one of two reasons: you don’t have time for them because all your energy goes into your man or 2: They don’t agree with the relationship you are in and can see that it is taking its toll on you.
The key to any relationship is finding that balance, and being committed to someone that has the scales tipped to his side all the time means that other areas in your life will start to suffer.