The wisdom of the day was essentially "get the alcoholic sober and the rest of the family will get better automatically." But that didn't happen.
It didn't happen because the de-selfing experience of living on an emotional roller coaster had left us not knowing what normal life felt like.
Just maneuvering in and through these worlds and trying to make sense of them required creative, complex, occasionally quite zany, and sometimes rather-dysfunctional strategies.
When Dad went to (and left) treatment, there was no such thing as family healing.
17; Updated December 2011 One in five adult Americans have lived with an alcoholic relative while growing up.
In general, these children are at greater risk for having emotional problems than children whose parents are not alcoholics.
A child being raised by a parent or caregiver who is suffering from alcohol abuse may have a variety of conflicting emotions that need to be addressed in order to avoid future problems.
They are in a difficult position because they cannot go to their own parents for support.
that same beloved father had a monster living inside him.
Just as we had a drunken father and a sober one, we had a drunken family and a sober one.
It was as if we repeatedly passed behind some invisible curtain, reemerging each time into an alternate universe but still on the same stage, still in our same, familiar living room.
Some of the feelings can include the following: Although the child tries to keep the alcoholism a secret, teachers, relatives, other adults, or friends may sense that something is wrong.
Teachers and caregivers should be aware that the following behaviors may signal a drinking or other problem at home: Some children of alcoholics may cope by taking the role of responsible "parents" within the family and among friends.