Of course, they will not accompany the “chosen one” on the date, but they will hover in the background.Every attempt to continue the conversation post-date will be a competition for attention between the wolf-pack and you.If you’re not Indian and your date is, celebratory social occasions and family events will likely become part of your life.Ask questions and show both enthusiasm and respect for these new experiences, understanding that some family members may be cautious about immediately embracing an “outsider,” especially if the expectation is that your significant other will marry an Indian.Just because your Indian dating experience is far from that, there are likely some expectations about gender roles and the progression of a dating relationship. Should the man be asking the woman’s father for permission to date her?In a marriage, how are household chores divided or designated?It’s important that you respect each other’s values and boundaries.
Ego and the Indian man are blood brothers Every (He)Indian man thinks it is beneath his dignity to admit he actually wants to enjoy your company and wants to get to know you better or that you have other better options out there.Just the phrase “Dating Indian Men” is enough for a tumult of reactions, much like shouting “Fire” in a crowded area.Some people will run away to avoid getting into a discussion; Some will just stand and watch, the rest will have opinions ranging from “What brutes they are! ” and everything in between; Some of us will go on a tangent with comments like “Why date? ” and “Against our ancient culture”, and of course, the inevitable “From Sita to Draupadi, the woman is the source of all problems, even with dating.” There will also be quite a few declaring that the problem is not the Indian Men, it is the Indian Woman, leading the poor lamb on and abandoning him at the altar of parental approval. This is doubly true for Indian men, they have not quite evolved from the pack foraging stage of Gorillas.Indian Dating: Clarity of Intent One advantage to dating an Indian — whether you are or not — is that dating intentions are rarely vague.If marriage is something your date values, it will be discussed from the get-go.Share your heritage and family traditions with your date, too.Determine if your lifestyles and values are compatible. If you’re both Indian, don’t take tradition for granted. ) Be sure to talk about what being Indian means to you in practical, everyday terms.While some Indian men will be quite progressive in their view of women’s roles in relationships, some are still quite traditional.Clearly communicate what you need and expect from a relationship early on.For our non-Indian listeners, do you have any advice for non-Indian women who find themselves interested in an Indian guy? _____ Sanjit Singh I think it can be a tricky position. It’s a good idea to make sure that it is not of some deep-seated importance to marry someone from your own background. As a former practicing lawyer who also holds a graduate degree in philosophy, Jasbina can relate first-hand to the demands and challenges facing her accomplished clients.I’ve seen a lot of Indian guys, like my brother, who started dating an American girl.