I’m not sure where it’s going but if we continue to date, it might be hard to continue to keep it a secret.We both really like each other so we don’t want to break up, and we’re always professional in the office.The man I’ve been seeing isn’t my boss and I’m not his, but we do work pretty closely together on a lot of projects (which is how our relationship bloomed).
My take is that it’s limiting to have a strict “no dating in the workplace” policy because, well, what if? You don’t have to wonder whether he’s a womanizer (he’s come alone to the last five company Christmas parties) or a pathological liar because you know where it works. Best case scenario: it’s you and he’s happy for you and you can celebrate your successes together and money and status don’t become an issue. The person you’re dating works in the same building. Get ready for an awful lot of gossiping about weird co-workers and venting about clients on the weekends. Is this something we have to bring up with our boss? Thanks, BG Dear BG: It is not surprising that you have gotten into a relationship with someone at work.You spend about a third of your life while you’re awake at work.) and personal readiness, not by a moral imperative. When I was in college I worked at a nightclub — partially because I needed the cash and partially because I was dating a guy who also worked there. Well, because he was awful and I was 19 and didn’t know any better.He would bring other girls into the club and I would watch them hanging out or, worse, making out and have to batten down my rage for the rest of my shift.I understand how important that is seeing both my boys graduated. he promises forever and we only have time together at work.. we have had this relationsip for very close to five years now..please tell me how your relationship turned out.. Despite it being more convenient for 20-something women who are trying to make “serious strides in [their careers] before [they have] to make tough decisions about marriage and kids” to find potential suitors in the office, Friedman thinks that having a “co-worker-boyfriend hybrid” remains a bad idea.This was great for writing angry poetry on the back of band fliers, horrible for my mental state.Still, I wouldn’t use this as an example that dating a co-worker is . I haven’t dated a co-worker since then (only for lack of opportunity), but I’ve dated people I’ve met through work.Some things are universal don’ts, like dating someone you work with. So is there anyway to make a romantic relationship and a career thrive in the same place?Psychologist Art Markman helps this reader figure it out.