By that I do not mean that you should remove your filter and tell the person you’re seeing everything about you and what goes on in your mind (particularly if it’s obsessing about them, LOL).I mean show them who you really are—a dorky history buff; a pop-culture obsessed clotheshorse; an introverted bookworm; or all of the above.Not that that’s necessarily what you want—and if you’re getting laid and happy about it, more power to you.But if what you’re looking for is an actual relationship that might lead to something like a lifetime (or at least long-term) partnership, you’d be wise to arm yourself with ways to help you sift through all the dudes you meet, date, and sleep with, and focus on the ones with real relationship potential. I’m not saying you should go all and start playing hard to get, but you can save yourself a ton of time and energy that might otherwise be spent seeing emotionally unavailable, immature, incompatible, or game-playing men by using a few smart tactics.“Many times women will psychoanalyze every detail about a man, and many times make inaccurate assumptions about who that person is and their level of interest in them,” says Nelson.
“It’s common to mistake sexual attraction for being really into someone,” says Nelson.Who wants to be the one who always texts first or shows affection?That doesn’t bode well for how this person would behave as a partner, anyway.In addition to being healthy and empowering, these habits will also make you generally more intriguing and attractive to whomever you happen to be dating. There are fewer things more tempting and entertaining than the three-hour brunch or happy hour catch-up with your girlfriends during which the conversation revolves around interpreting the mixed-signal text messages from your latest dating prospect.However, these conversations—especially when they turn into repetitive rants—can be counterproductive.It seems to be the case the women are often times the ones who want to turn a sexual dating fling into a serious, “real” relationship. There are probably tens of thousands of women in a dating situation just like yours… You’ve met him either at a dating site or in a bar or somewhere like that. In addition, considering the fact that you weren’t even dating, that gave you something extra to think about.So, this page is mostly written for women (although these are applicable to a degree also if you’re a man). You just forgot about your problems when you were with him.“Time after time, I have clients who do this and end up realizing that attraction was leading the relationship.” Sex is key—but it’s not enough.Don’t be one of those people who hangs around, taking a hookup’s booty calls or inconsistent texts to meet up, hoping that one day this person will change and fall in love with you.The person with real partner potential will appreciate the full mix of traits you possess—the good, the weird, and the goofy.Instead of trying to interpret the hidden meaning of every little “what’s up” text, pay more attention to how the person you’re dating behaves.