Of course, there's absolutely no shame in doing sexy things over video chat — the only people in the wrong in revenge porn scenarios are the ones who share videos, images, and screenshots without their partner's consent.So if you're in a LDR (or you and bae are just going to be apart for a short while), it may be time to try Skype sex. We've enlisted Devika Singh, a tantric sex and relationship coach, to help us round up a list of tips to make your Skype sex game hot enough to keep you satisfied until you see your partner IRL again. Don't leave the sex games for times when you and your partner are together IRL.They might have to wait until your next visit to experience it hands on, but tease them by using a dildo on yourself during Skype sex (feel free to keep your face out of it if you want). Have them use a vibrator on their clit and watch their orgasmic expression when the toy brings them to climax. Dare your partner to wear a butt plug throughout your entire Skype chat, or keep one in all day and message back and forth to see how they're enjoying it.Next level: New high-tech sex toys, such as the We-Vibe Sync, come with apps that let you play together even when you and your partner are apart, Singh says.Try something like this: "I watched some porn where they used dildos, and there was a lot of dirty talk, so I thought we could try sex toys and some more sexy talk if you're down."Inject a little humor. Accidental farts, a flushed face that accompanies telling your partner you'd like to wear an animal tail butt plug, or actual animals (like your cat or dog) jumping onto the bed mid-orgasm. To embrace awkward moments and help ease the nervousness of sharing fantasies, Singh suggests adding a little humor to your streaming routine.(She says she once used a line from during Skype sex with a gamer partner, and he totally came.)Adding humor to your Skype sex can mean everything from surprising your partner with a themed costume to adding fun, thoughtful elements (like a pre-planned cheerleading routine) to an otherwise super sexy role-play scenario.
Also, considering the horrible prevalence of revenge porn, it's important to know that you shouldn't do anything you're not 100% comfortable with (like showing your face or getting completely nude).Then, describe exactly what you're doing and how it feels in vivid detail. Don't panic if your dirty talk or role-play hits a snag.Just like sex IRL, Skype sex can involve a few silent moments or times when you're not sure exactly what to do next.Mute yourself to let your partner focus on what's happening on the screen, or deprive your partner of a visual by covering your camera with a sticky note (or your underwear) so that they can focus on the sensual sounds you make. "The sexiest organ is the mind," says clinical psychologist and relationship expert Barbara Greenberg, Ph D.And she's right — keeping up your daily intellectual connection with a long-distance partner is essential for the success of your Skype sex. Keep the conversation going between Skype sessions.Rather than open another Skype sex session lying in bed, set up your computer so your partner can watch you while you clean your apartment in a sexy outfit. You can keep it PG-13 and use the romantic scene to catch up about how much you miss one another, or you can make it X-rated and add a waterproof sex toy to your Skype session so your partner can watch you get off in the tub.Or, if you're out at a party and your partner is missing you, slip into a private room (like a bathroom) for a moment to open Skype and let them know that you haven't forgotten them. Add to the build up of Skype sex by giving a strip tease, removing one item of clothing at a time as your partner watches and masturbates.Lucky for us, the year is 2018, and the communication options for long-distance couples have come a long way from hand-written love letters (although that's still not a bad idea).Thanks to video chat applications like Skype, you can now see one another — which means that you can get sexy with your partner over Wi-Fi, even if it's going to be a long time until you can get busy in real life.With the We Connect app, if a partner with a vagina is wearing the toy, their lover can control the vibrations from their smart phone using the app, no matter how far away they are. After you've revealed your fantasies to one another, it's time to act them out.But if that's too complicated, any sex toy enjoyed by couples during in-person sex can also be added to Skype sex with a little boldness and imagination. Perhaps your apartment is dirty, and your partner enjoys the French Maid role-playing scenario. For instance, try setting up your computer, phone, or tablet in your bathroom so your partner can watch you take a candle-lit bath.