Find something that you can grab hold of and use, whether that’s a specific piece of information or just a vibe you’re getting. It’s hard to figure someone out based on just a few words and a picture or two, but you have to learn to go with your instincts.Unfortunately this will only come with practice, and the more messages you send, the better you will get.
It’s this experience, however, that has enabled me to figure out what the hell I am doing, and I wish to share some of my tips and tricks with you.With any luck they will like you back and you can look forward to a new life of love, romance and passionate lovemaking.Online dating is the greatest invention the world has ever seen. You browse profiles, find someone you like and start a conversation.The following tips are for both men and women and they will hopefully spare you some of the failures that I went through.Many online dating articles and products will try to convince you that what you write for your first message is the most important skill you will ever learn. For sure, what you write in your opening message and in your profile will dictate a lot of your success with online dating, but the single biggest factor is how someone responds to your profile picture. While your opening message’s content will determine if someone clicks through to your profile, it’s that little thumbnail image that will determine if they open the message at all.The advantage of Facebook is that you can get more insight into who they are, see more photos, find out the kind of circles they hang out in.It’s slightly stalkerish, but remember; they will get to see everything on your profile too so it’s a fair swap.It will come across as needy, and although you may have the sexiest picture imaginable, your chances of meeting someone are virtually zero if you sound like a douche. A truly attractive person is comfortable in their own skin and has the confidence to reveal their thoughts and feelings without caring what anyone else thinks.Vulnerability is the essence of opening yourself up without fearing rejection. Ask your best friend or someone you trust to proofread your profile to check that what you have written is a fair and honest representation of your personality and you aren’t coming across like a crazy person. Okay, you’ve sorted out your profile and taken some decent pictures, now you’re ready to send your very first message. First, don’t just send messages out blindly: you have to tailor the message to your goals and the person you are writing to.With any luck they will like you back and you can look forward to a new life of love, romance and passionate lovemaking. In reality, it’s like that game at the fun fair where you have to shoot a row of ducks but nobody ever seems to be able to hit the target.Fixed or not, it’s frustrating, and unless you’re a crack Marine Corps sniper, you will often go home empty handed. As a “veteran” of over 60 internet dates and nearly 10 years of negotiating my way through the many, many websites out there, I know firsthand how arduous and frustrating it can be.